Unshaken Joy (And How To Get There)

Dear infatuation,

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I’m sorry. I feel like you’ve gotten a bad rap. I BLAME 13-YEAR-OLDS. AND CHICK FLICKS. AND TEENAGERS IN GENERAL.


But infatuation, frankly, I THINK YOU’RE AMAZING. You are pretty much one of the best things EVER with your butterfly-inducting, heart-racing, knee-weakening moments. You make the start of relationships TANTALIZING, EARTH-MOVING and all-around OVERWHELMINGLY EXCITING. But yes, yes, before the Greek chorus chimes in, you can be just a smidgen BLINDING. As in, “I-LOVE-THIS-PERSON-WITH-ALL-MY-HEART-THAT-I’VE-ONLY-KNOWN-TWO-HOURS” blinding (also known as the “Romeo and Juliet syndrome).


And really, we’ve all known CRAZY ANNOYING people who are so infatuated that they can’t see the GLARING AMOUNT of flags. “Can’t you see that?!? You can’t even MOVE, there’s so many dang flags!” I don’t want to be that person, and I’m guessing neither do you.


So my dear, delightful, infatuation, I’ve come up with five ways to know if you can be welcomed in or should be turned away at the doorstep. After all, infatuation is a FANTASTIC gift that should be ENJOYED and even DELIGHTED IN. But it’s the icing on the cake, not the cake itself. Join me on this journey (I feel like I just introduced a PBS special, weird). And we’re off:


NO. 1: DOES THIS PERSON TRULY LOVE GOD?


NO. 2: WHY AM I INFATUATED WITH THIS INDIVIDUAL?


NO. 3: WHAT DO YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY THINK?


NO. 4: DOES YOUR LIFE REVOLVE AROUND THE PERSON YOU’RE INFATUATED WITH?


NO. 5: IS YOUR INFATUATION TURNING TO LUST?


So there you have it. All the questions you need to be asking when dear ol’ infatuation comes knocking at your door. I’m of the opinion that you can feel free to entertain this fine friend, but only if you’ve HONESTLY CONSIDERED these questions, and the answers are not “IT DOESN’T MATTER; I LOVE THIS PERSON.” If you have actual reasonable answers, you’ll be welcoming what I like to call MOSTLY RATIONAL INFATUATION. Sure, it’s still slightly biased and overwhelmingly full of feelings. But such infatuation is also tempered with WISDOM. And that’s something none of us can afford to skimp on.


Oh hey there, MOSTLY RATIONAL INFATUATION, come on in! I know you’ve gotten a bad rap, but I think you’re swell. No really, I do! I’m more than delighted to entertain you. And true, I may FEEL like a 13-year-old with you around, but I’m not thinking like one. I may, however, act like one as I hide my face when THE BOY compliments me.




Disclaimer: The author writes this assuming that infatuation is only able to be indulged within the confines of two unattached people. Anything else is no bueno. Also, she’s speaking from experience with THE BOY (WHAT THE WHATTTT), so she knows (at least in part) what she’s talking about.

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